Every instance you make choices, you are acting from a conditioned behavior or, acting from a part of being that is aware of why you are alive right now. Which is it for you? How can you know? Is the forest too thick to see through?
Some people tell you meditation is the answer. Other people say read psychology books. What is the strategy that preoccupies your mind? What if you do nothing. Every path has a place but you only invite experience into you life that you are ready for. That is, you only express the genius you love and accept about yourself. Its up to you to take steps to make it conscious. This requires you face the shadows that block the gate.